We are getting married on the tenth day of the tenth month, in front of about ten people. And, even when it fells like making sense of a Covid wedding is untenable, I choose to focus on the marriage because a marriage is forever.
In theme with ten I started thinking about a marriage ten commandments. Now, turns out everyone and their mother has also had this idea. I found a lot of online-suggestions for marriage commandments, read articles by seasoned-pros and marriage veterans. I don't know much about what marriage will be, a simple neophyte, but I know who we are. And I know how far we will go to love each other. And so, I am writing the Ten Commandments, for our marriage. Fully understanding that, someday, I may look back at this and feel embarrassingly naive. But this is how it feels today (and I'm going with it).
I will love you.
I will assume the best and speak well of you.
I will always make time for the two of us.
I will always root for you and move mountains to support you.
I will be gentle and listen.
I will let you win and be a person of integrity.
I will always make time for dancing in the kitchen.
I will be honest and be willing to laugh at myself.
I will always help you and let you help me.
And, this one I've stolen from my vows, I will not only return these feelings of safety and comfort and love but also accept and acknowledge every effort that you make to create comfort and safety for me.